1. being unable to attend official events with your partner.
we have tonnes of wedding coming up, and we received invitations like “to:fransisca and partner”, or “to: joshua and partner”. the first thing on my mind would be “well, i guess i’m going solo.”
every wedding is overseas wedding to us, which cost a 8 hours flight, accomodation arrangement, and few days work leaves. too much hassle and cost, so we becoming used to questions like “hey, where is your partner?”
2. limited office leaves.
currently joshua is in 6 months probation, and he’s unable to take any leaves during this period. skype video calls are our closest option to real time dating, and you know you had enough when it has been three months.
“babe, i’m looking for ticket to singapore for weekend gateway.”
this, bring me to the next point.
3. cost.
weekend gateway is not impossible for singapore-sydney ldr. yet, we need to re-assess every impromptu plan as it would cost a thousand dollars (at least) for every visit. it’s not limited to financial cost, but to economic cost as well. imagine, for 3 days 2 nights weekend gateway, he needs to drive 1 hour to the airport, 2 hours wait at airport for international flight (and hopefully there is no delay), 8 hrs flight to singapore, which totalling in 11 hrs just for ONE WAY travelling time.
multiply by two for round trip, and here you have 22 hours spent on travelling time only.
most of budget airlines timing sucks, so most likely he’ll reach singapore at night and leaves on early morning. thus, add up 2 days worth of sleep. let’ say 16 hours.
so, for the cost of a thousand dollars, 22 hours of travelling time, and 16 hours of rest, we can only spend around 24 hrs together.
“do you think it’s worth it, dear?” i asked.
“babe, it’s worth every penny. unless you want to see your boyfriend turns into crazy idiot.”
still, i asked him not to.
4. quality time = wifi quality
when i was in bandung, my wifi sucks. we video called with lots of frozen screen and disrupted sound quality. we switched to voice call instead, hoping for better quality, and ended up getting frustrated with it.
i switched to mobile data instead, and then it went good.
fact: it only cost around 500 MB for 2 hours of video call using LTE mobile data.
tried and tested.
5. time difference
it’s now spring in sydney and there’s daylight saving to be added into the time difference. it used to be 2 hours later than singapore, but now it becomes 3 hours later.
this means, he’s going to sleep earlier than before and so we can’t call until so late during weekdays.
on weekends, we tried to make up for what’s missing on weekdays, so we called at weekend nights and it made him go bed at 2 am or 3 am and zombified for the next day.
we made plans to meet on chinese new year, and meeting our big family as well. until then, i might come up with more bunch of things i hate in long distance relationship.
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