i'm sharing my personal stories to you, because it's you. somebody i knew, somebody i'm familiar with.
it never crosses my mind my personal stories would be public consumption without my consent.
like, imagine this. a stranger comes up to you and ask you about your family matters.
a stranger.
what does she needs to do with my family?
does she has any concerns, like her life affected by it?
why can't she just mind her own business and be gone?
i don't understand indo's culture, or to narrowed it down, my neighbours.
taking another example: a private wedding.
wedding commonly seen as an event arranged by the bride and groom as a celebration of their union. others might help along the way, yet, they do not have any right to criticise anything.
a family friend of mine was invited to this private wedding. due to its limited seating, only close neighbours are invited. so one day, a family friend walked passed by an uninvited guest, and engaged in conversation:
family friend: are you going to XXX wedding?
uninvited guest: no. i'm not invited
family friend: oh really? i thought your family are close to hers!
uninvited guest: haha yeah i don't know. maybe because you're richer than me.
notice what's wrong?
- family friend not supposed to check on uninvited guest. it's a private wedding, and of course not everyone is invited.
-family friend supposed to highlight that it's a private wedding to uninvited guest.
- basically, family friend just need to shut her mouth and don't bother checking on who's coming on the wedding. she's just a guest, and should know a guest is a guest, not attendance checker.
people might take is as "caring", but for me it goes beyond to "irritating".
why can't everyone mind their own business?
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| sometimes i really mean it. |
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